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    July 22, 2008



    Just here, boosting.
    I was thinking of you this morning, and of Owen, and what a wonderful gift the brand-new people in our families are, always, but especially at times like this.

    Mainline Mom

    Hey Nils, again I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, but what a beautiful obit. Sounds like a great guy. I lost my dad almost a decade ago now and I still miss him.


    That was wonderful. Sounds like your father was just waiting for your mom to be someplace safe before he left. Thinking of you all.


    This is a beautiful tribute to your dad (and your mom). Thanks for sharing a bit of him with us. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Kris T

    What a wonderful reflection of your dad and his life. My thoughts are with you and your family.


    That was a beautiful tribute to your father. He would be very proud of you, I'm sure. Love from both of us.

    Bucky Four-Eyes

    Raising a glass here in honor of wonderful imperfection.


    He sounds like an incredible person. I am so sorry for your loss.

    The Kept Woman

    Oh shitty, shitty cancer.

    I was, as you know, just here last August with Sugar Daddy's cousin. Lung cancer is a horrible, horrible way to go.

    I wish you and your family the best as you go through this difficult time. He sounds like an amazing man and you can count yourself as one lucky duck to have had a dad like that.


    I'm sorry for your family's loss. This is the one stage of life that just stinks. Thankfully you have a wonderful history, your parents shared their stories with you and your siblings, which you have recorded so beautifully, and left a rich and loving memory behind. Enjoy that, Nils. :')


    Life is strange, it runs its course and drags us along, and loss is part of it as surely as birth. It's funny, because I would have thought this would bring me tears. It didn't. Instead, it makes me smile. Thank you.

    Like Bucky, I raise my glass in honor of wonderful imperfection, and gratefully acknowledge that people don't have to be perfect to be just what we need.

    Here's to Dad -- both yours and my own.


    I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. I remember the first time I read about your parent's love story, and I remember thinking how amazing it was. My thoughts are with you and your family.

    Robert Paterson

    Oh Nils......


    There are times in the near future that you will say or do something that you will think, "I sound like my dad" or "thats something dad would have done."

    And in those monents it will sting for a second, but then it will make you feel warm and happy to remember him. It's kind of like drinking Ouzo or bad whiskey.

    I am sorry for you loss.


    That's truly lovely, Nils.

    Your Dad will continue to live on in the stories you've written and told all of us.



    I am very sorry for your loss but what a beautiful testimony of your parents' lives


    Here's to your dad, who lived and loved well.


    Here's to your dad, who lived and loved well.


    My deepest sympathy, Nils, in the loss of someone so very special. The first time I heard mention of your father was at the Jubilee Theatre. My husband and I still squeeze hands three times in our own variation of "I love you". Thank you for allowing others to know him, in all his imperfect glory, in some small way.


    I'm sorry, Nils.

    You honor him with your beautiful words.


    I am so sorry.


    My condolences for your loss.


    Deepest sympathies to you and your family.

    apathy lounge

    Oh, Nils. I've been away and haven't been by to check on you. And when I do I find this. Peace to you and the rest of your family. You make me laugh...even when you're bringing a tear to my eye.


    The story you wrote about your parents was the first thing I read when I came to your site. It is a beautiful story about two awesome people.
    And I've kept coming back. Your family reminds me a bit of my own family and I love reading your site.

    It's hard to find the right words to write here - although I've never met you or your family, your father's passing brought tears to my eyes. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.


    My edition of the Eastern Graphic arrived in the mail today. I read the article you wrote this week about your Mom being the Gang Leader. I enjoyed it immensley and could relate to every sentence you wrote because we are currently in the throws of the dreaded deminitia with both mothers. Between the giggles and smiles while reading the article I kept thinking " we're not in this alone" although there are days when I am positive we are.
    While reading your article I made a mental note to check your blog when I got a free minute. You know the size of our lawn...summertime doesn't leave us with much energy after the 4.1 acres of grass is mowed and the miles of flower beds are looked after. Computer time is pretty well non-existence until the grass stops growing.
    I was expecting to read further updates on your Mom but was totally shocked to read your Dad had passed away. You and your family have had a rough year but at the same time there has been some neat little sprinkles of " hey, life is great isn't it" thrown in and I'm thinking of that precious grandson who clearly has you by the short and curlys.
    Dave and I extend our deepest sympathies to you, Joyce and the girls and we hope your darkest days will soon be over and before long the wonderful memories of your Dad will bring a smile rather than a tear.


    love and blessings to all - I'm sorry for your loss.


    there is a quote from one character to another in grey's anatomy when his father dies... something about the Dead Dad's Club. and how you arent a member of the club until you are a member ~ and the final line:

    "i'm sorry you're in the club*..."

    nils, i am so sorry for the loss of your dad... thank you for sharing him with us in your words, and in who you are ~ and who your family has become. you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers... i like to think our dads are all on the other side watching over us and while i am sure they look down proudly on who we have become, i also admit i like to think they laugh at us when we think no one is looking and we do something goofy*.

    lots of love to you,

    * i am glad i re-read this before i hit POST, i had mis-typed "blob" instead of "club" ~ at which point, i am sure MY dad was rolling on the floor of heaven as he pointed to me and showed everyone how i "fat-fingered" it...HAHA!


    As we'd expect from you, a beautiful, touching tribute to your father. Sincere condolences to you and your family, Nils.


    Oh, Nils, I am so sorry to hear about your father's passing, but what a legacy he left. And how wonderful that you captured the magic of your parents' courtship in your story.

    My dad was also born in 1923, but he died 28 years ago. There are so many things I wish he had lived to see, but I am consoled that there were also many, many things that he did live to enjoy, and there is no way anyone could ever say he did not leave his imprint. Thanks for sharing your dad's imprint with us, "a wonderfully imperfect man," who no doubt was the perfect dad.


    This is the first time I'm checking your blog after a few days. Just read your post. It sounds like he led a very rich life, full of laughter and happiness, constantly surrounded by the love of family and friends.

    I offer my deepest condolences to you and your family.

    von Krankipantzen

    What a great tribute to your dad. Still sending hugs and prayers to you and yours.


    Dear Nils,

    My thoughts are with you and your family. Thanks for sharing your parents' story with us. Tears and sadness eventually fade but memories last forever.


    Wow, I just now read I really don't know what to say. I am sitting here crying for a man I never met. You have a gift for making it seem like we DO know the people you write about.

    You and your entire family are in my thoughts and prayers...



    Nils, I am so sorry for your loss. Both my parents have passed and I know what a loss it is, but what a great man to have as a father and what wonderful memories you have of him. Wonderful.

    (I have spent the last hour or so reading your parent's Love Story. It's beautiful, inspiring and while reading it, issues in my own life took on a new clarity. It's true what your dad said - some things you just...know. i'm sending up a heartfelt thanks to him for reminding me of that, via you.)

    My sympathies to you and your family.

    Just Some Girl in Ohio

    Okay, I'm late in reading this, and thus in offering my condolences. I first found your blog with the story of how your parents met. That was a wonderful love story. So many of your posts are about family, and have brought many people much happines in reading them. I'm raising my glass in honor of your father, actually in honor of both your parents, and in honor of the job they did in raising you. I know that I don't know you personally, but am glad to have found your writing, to know that you are out there in the world. May your heart remember the happy times much more easily that it remembers the sad.


    Geez, Nils... what a year you've had. So sorry for all the loss you've experienced. Each time, you've paid such lovely tributes to your family members and I've come away knowing, just a little more, why you turned out so darn special. My sincere condolences on the loss of your father. What a gem he was...


    Will there be pictures of Owen's birthday? and isn't a wedding happening soon? and Autumn colours of your island would be appreciated.

    I know I am supposed to follow you on Twitter, but I don't have energy for yet another connection on the 'Net.


    i suck as a friend. so so sorry for your family's and your loss. ::hugs::

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